I heard the most amazing thing on the Today Show this morning. There was a marriage and family expert posing the following question: Are children better off living with parents that argue or parents that are divorced. I found this discussion so frustrating because she was leaving out the most obvious third option. Children are better off living with two parents that get along!!
Now, I want to say that sometimes one doesn't have an option on this. If one parent wants to walk away that isn't something the other parent can do anything about. That is a doomed relationship....no matter what you want or do. I'm not really addressing this kind of sad situation. I'm talking about two people who simply cannot get along.
I want to say that honoring your family, your relationships, your vows, and your self (for goodness sake) is what is called for. If you can't get along or you find yourself perpetually unhappy or dissatisfied then figure it out....fix it! Get counselling, talk to a friend (a positive friend in a good relationship), talk to your spouse, read a marriage enrichment book but do something to make it better. Walking away is not the answer. Continuing to fight each other is not the answer. Laying down and playing dead is not the answer. Waiting for your kids to grow up so you can leave is REALLY not the answer. Be a warrior for your marriage! Fight for it!!! You wanted it once and you can want it again!
Can you tell that expert on the Today Show got my dander up??? Sheesh!
Kathy
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What would the world be like if that third option was always talked about? It seems there is always a third option - the best option - in any situation, but the world we live in today walks right by it w/o giving choice #3 a second glance. We really need more people to mention it and force America to do a double take!
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