This Jon and Kate thing is really bothering me. If you've been stuck on a desert island for the last few months you may not know what I'm talking about but I'll bet most of you do. Jon and Kate of "Jon and Kate Plus Eight" fame are having serious marital problems. There are lots of reasons for this and many opinions on what to do about it. Just google "Jon and Kate" and you can read most of what's out there. Lots of vitriol, buckets of sarcasm, and a ton of opinion. I'm sure most of what is reported as "fact" is really not true but I know what I heard from their lips and that is why I'm bothered.
Last night on their season opener they discussed their maritial difficulties...sort of. They didn't say much but what they did say really bugged! Kate said that she got up in the morning for her kids, breathed for her kids, stayed for her kids and did everything for her kids. Jon said much the same thing just not as dramatically. I think his words were "I'm here". They both reiterated that they would do anything for their children who are their priority.
On the surface these are fine words and sentiments but underneath the surface these words are representative of what their problem really is. They haven't put their own relationship first. Some other thing or things has preceded their relationship on their "Truly Important Things" list.
Now I'm not going to say what I think they should do because I'm not them and I don't live their life. However, I am going to say they should figure out how to put each other and the relationship they've formed back at the top of that list. That is what will be best for those children that are their priority. Children are important, special, prized, etc etc etc but they will grow up one day and leave you. If you play your cards right, your spouse never will. If you play your cards really well you won't want them to.
Kathy
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I, too, feel ill about Jon and Kate. I feel really sad for her b/c I can't imagine being a mother of eight kids and my husband being out of the picture for whatever reason. But, I know there are two sides to every story. I also saw the season premier and noticed the exact same thing that you mentioned. Is is really possible to have a relationship with your hubby when you have 8 kids? I honestly don't know - I think I'm doubting it. I do very much hope they get it together for themselves and the kids -those precious kids who love their Mommy and Daddy very much and know there is something wrong. Marriage is hard. Why would anyone have 8 kids (not that they exactly "chose" that number) and then put their lives on national television and think all would be well? I have my opinions about Kate, but I got to be honest: I mostly side WITH her. I see Jon as lazy and tired (always have seen him that way)and not much of a helper. I don't think he's capable of handling eight kids (forget the TV thing). I think it is very hard for Kate as well, but at least she puts forth the energy. She seems to be a control freak, and I am sure that makes living with her even harder, but still - - - she is trying. I only see him in cars with other girls. In the meantime, I've heard that she has her own little escipades she goes on, so perhaps it is too early to judge. I admit that I have found inspiration via Kate in the past. She has good ideas and much needed survival techniques, I love her dry honesty and I always found myself walking away from her show thinking, "If she can do 8, I can do 2." I mean, I like her so much, let's just say I looked to God, Kate and the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr. Marc W. to help me raise my kids (along with a few other books out there). I really do have respect for her. I suppose I say ALL of that to say waht you were saying: What is up with Jon and Kate??? Guess we'll have to watch and find out. Either that, or we could just look at the cover of the weekly magazines near the check-out counter at the grocery store every week. I will be the FIRST to admit though, that I may be eating my words about Kate as the facts are revealed...
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